Women: Empower Your Vaginas

Where on Earth do women learn to be ashamed of their bodies? I racked my brain trying to pinpoint when and why I became ashamed of the fact that I can't orgasm purely from penetration, but I couldn't come up with a specific source. I remember watching TV shows like Sex in the City where Samantha could basically orgasm on command, and wondering why I wasn't having mind blowing sexperiences. And followed directly behind it was embarrassment and shame. Part of what thy don't teach you in health class is that it's natural to have to explore your body and what makes it feel good. I spent 7 years thinking that my vagina was abnormal when in reality, most women can't cum simply with vaginal penetration.

The day that I bought a vibrator was the first day that ever I experienced the orgasm, which unfortunately was several years after I started having sex. And even then I didn't feel super comfortable bringing it into the bedroom. So I did what any bored housewife would do...I faked it. In the last two years of having sex with someone other than myself, I only had an actual orgasm twice. TWICE! And nobody ever second guessed me because I'm a phenomenal actress in the bedroom. Why had I pushed my own needs aside for the needs of my partner?